In today’s world of mad rush, it is hard to comprehend one’s mind. In all individuals it is changeable as chameleon. Extent and severity of such changes though vary. Mood swings is some are slow, in others fast. A lasting stability in mood is just not possible. You are sure to encounter ups and downs of sentience—even as you may not want to see them.
What is mood?
Your mind is host to thoughts and feeling which are extremely dynamic. Their myriad forms and situations impact your life directly or indirectly. Just what is your mood, or your mind, upto at any point of time? This you ought to know for sure. For then alone can you fathom your mind and its myriad frames.
These myriad forms/stages of mind’s orientation are called Mood. Every man has his signature mood. The manner of mood change is consistent for a particular man or woman. Hence every individual must take cognizance of his or her mood driven temperament. Indeed mood swings are no aberrations. Rather, they are vital for man’s existential reality.
Mapping a volatile temperament
Life is one entity which is forever changing. Such changes are imperative because of emotional and environmental exigencies. Switching of demeanours precipitate ups and downs in day to day living. Indeed temperamental stability is well neigh impossible.
This too is not possible that you remain in an upbeat mood always. At some point of time you do feel low. And depending on sways of mood you tend to be good or bad at work in hand. When you are well disposed, you perform to perfection with ease and elan. When you are rattled, you feel tense, tired and pressurised even if going is seemingly smooth. “I am off-mood” becomes your pet refrain. You find it hard to concentrate on job. What your hear then doesn’t make sense. And nothing seems to strike a chord.
This scenario is ripe for multifarious illusions, despairs, and low downs to get going. Conversely if you are in a better mood, you feel upbeat at work. You exude a charm par excellence and thrive. You are willing to take on any challenge and beat others in quality and quantity of work output. It is elixir of such nature which makes studies and learning enjoyable and fruitful.
Leash your temperament
When your mood tends to waver, you are on test. That is the time when you ought to sense trouble and nip it in the bud. For this you need to relax your mind completely. When mind is relaxed, mood automatically falls in place.
There are myriad factors that impact your mood. These include some such talks or episodes as may land you in real trouble. Some people loose their bearings when weather turns bad. Others go haywire without any rhyme or reason. A religious preacher of Boston (America) Dr. Phillips Brooks took exception to pitch of dark, refusing to talk even if beseeched to deliver speech. If pursued on to explain his mood blues, he would be cheesed off all the more. There are many like Dr. Brooks who loose their cool for no good reason.
At the root of mood swings lies ethereal nature of human emotions. And this is easy to understand. So, whenever in doldrums, do try to find out reason for same. Before your erratic mood takes better of you, and plays spoil sports, learn to take it by the horns and tame it. Sublime and creative thoughts go a long way in solving problems of such kind. Replace all basal thoughts with benign and benevolent feelings. This will help you considerably in setting your mood right.
Sample this. We have a neighbour—Mr. Sharma. Generally a happy go lucky type of person, Once he was livid with his wife. Their daughter who intervened for some piece of work—also got a taste of Sharma’s temper. Just then their neighbour, curious to know what was wrong, readied to call on them. Intervening in the nick of time I stopped her on the plea that Mr. Sharma is besides himself. Let him cool down first. For then and then only, it would be fair for her to see him. As expected, my advice prevailed on her.
Come evening time and Mr. Sharma was cool and his usual jovial self. On being implored he confided that a glitch in office spoiled his mood. People of Mr. Sharma and Mr. Brook’s ilk need a novel thought wave to bail them out. They seem to shut close their mind when miffed.
Whereas what is required of them is that they open windows of their mind to outside fresh air. Shut closed they loathe good counsel. Rays of hope and harmony can’t reach them. Whereas what they need most is to look at creative and joyous aspect of glum occasion.
To manage your mood, keep yourself preoccupied, always, with work which gives happiness. Do something enjoyable even if you are sad. Your sentience flows into mind’s way. For example, if someone calls on you, a glance on your face is enough to reveal that you are off mood. Conversely if you suppress your blues and try to cheer up, your estranged mood will enliven in no time. Remember, it is your sentience alone which gives depth and expanse to your expressions. Disregard of emotions is therefore harmful. Ergo, to control your temperament, keep your emotions in check. Sentiments need to be refined and positively reinforced. Jettison malicious thoughts and welcome healthy and enabling thoughts of compassion and benevolence.
So, it is up to you. If you choose to be enslaved by your mood, it would reflect in your behaviour and go deep down into your subconscious mind creating significant hurdles on your way to success. But if you face your mood head-on, remain upbeat even in stress and strain, say sweet words and behave cordially under all circumstances; your blues will leave for good leaving you fresh and energetic.
Give priority to mind over mood
Whenever not in your wits, use your brains. Don’t flow with sentiments. Listen to your intellect and act cerebral. Your derailed mood coupled with reckless emotions may leave you high and dry. So abide by logical conclusions of your conscious mind. When depressed, use your head more than your heart. For the only voice you would hear out of your head would be the voice of sanity, telling you not to ruin yourself by going off track. And isn’t this the very counsel you would give to a perturbed pal—that take care, it would be alright soon? So, cheer up, relax, let good thoughts come to you from all sides, and see your mood take a U- turn to better. Your tension will vanish in thin air and your mood will smile and sing.
Don’t tax your mood too often
One easy way out to tame your mood is not to make it a beast of burden carrying weight of your whims and fancies. Let it carry load of only one piece of work at a time. Some people are in the habit of overloading their dispensation with myriad views and perspectives resulting in best of their moods going hay’wire.
Sample this. No sooner is Mrs. Bhatnagar out of bed in morning that her bickerings get going. She would remonstrate to her husband : I have so much to do—send children to school—prepare breakfast—go shopping and on various errands. Narrating this she would be livid, spoiling own mood as well as that of her spouse and children also. Same goes for Mrs. Verma—a mother of two, albeit in a different vein. Busy like bee whole day long in domestic chores—she must face her nagging family at the end of it all. Her husband and children are forever finding fault with whatsoever she does. Naturally this has reflected adversely on her mood which remains on tenter hook most of the time.
And so we have—Mrs Verma—a bundle of nerves—muttering caveats while working. No wonder she has grown melancholy. So much so, she slumped on kitchen floor the other day when rest of the family was out—and wept, profusely lamenting that her life was in ruins. Taking care of a family like hers would kill her in the long run! Thinking thus and shedding tears for long, she realised all of a sudden that her kitchen was poorly arranged. In no time she was up and setting her kitchen in order like a woman possessed. And her fire didn’t stop with kitchen alone. The whole of the household as well as courtyard was sparkled clean. The exercise gave vent to her frustration relaxing her physically as well as mentally. No wonder, her husband was astonished on seeing radically changed interiors of house—as if by miracle. And a normally fussy hubby was besides himself with joy and showered lucid praise on his wife.
Make it a point to do-it-to-the-finish once you pick up a piece of work. Unless the job at hand is complete, don’t think of doing anything else. Thus you will deliver goods with ease and elan. That apart, you would have peace of mind and a cool temperament which will favour execution of your plans. Remember your mood and mind are deeply interlinked. Mind, significantly, is central to the power of memory. So, don’t overload this centre of memory (MIND) lest you miss out on your good-mood. Ergo, take up only one piece of work at a time. This way you would be tension free and success oriented. With your mind and mood on your side you will be blessed with a healthy and happy existence.
Give your mood elixir of creative thoughts
If you want your mood to be always upbeat, read thought provoking books and take rest and relaxation in the midst of work.
Do you intend seeing your mind perform miracles? Then aim unwaveringly on peak of success. On the winning ladder, keep your eyes on the top even as you step on first of its rungs. In other words, keep your mind on high diet of sublime thoughts. Your firm determination and mature judgement would keep your mood in proper gear. Thereafter, your enemies, whatever their number be, are bound to face reverses. Your restrained mood shall pay rich dividends by removing your worries, enriching your life, and leading you all the way to success.
come, let us seek help from mind power
❑ Who is such one in today’s world as doesn’t have a problem at hand, or is tension free? Should you also be grappling with nitty gritties of day-to-day living, it’s time you open up to your own mind rather than weep before someone else. Enter into a dialogue with your own conscience and listen to what it says. May be, it is something as given here below:
You are not the first person to have faced a host of problems. Nor are you alone in being anxiety prone. Just have a cursory look around and tell one single soul who is worry free and gay beyond cares. When you do this, you find people living with far bigger problems than your own. Infact your own problems may appear mere minuscules in comparison to their’s of gigantic size.
❑ When you see your neighbours reckon with tough times, and meet them to know their perspective, your own hurdles will then seem insignificant. Your blues melt away and you feel relieved. You will then discover a new surge of energy in you—to take on challenges which had hitherto seemed daunting.
❑ This is nobody’s case that above facts tempt you to forget your ordeals altogether. Far from it, you should neither underestimate your problem—nor ignore it. Because if you do that, your problem will fester on and make you a nervous week. So, you should take full cognizance of your current problems and go about solving them in all earnest.
❑ Avoid haste and emotional outburst at work place. That can lead to disaster. May be your hurry ends up inviting more problems than solving the one at hand. So, each and every step you take ought to be well calculated.
❑ If you are already neck deep in trouble, take a cool headed decision before trying to wriggle out of it. If need be, seek someone else’s help, but don’t reach to a conclusion in haste. Continue your endeavours with patience and perseverance.
❑ Don’t let your imagination run amuck. Keep it reined. Flights of fancy are like unbridled horses. Ergo, hold your horses.
